By Sharon Gorman, D.C.
There exists in all of us and some of us more than others a peace that surpasses understanding. A general feeling that everything is OK. There is nothing that needs to be done in that moment to make anything better or different. There is no struggle to be in the moment because the moment is so “perfect”. Sometimes I become calm enough that I actually feel the life flowing through me. I notice my breathing. I notice my blood pumping and there is just nothing to be done about it. These moments happen to me more in the warm weather when I feel it easier to just enjoy the moment. It happens to me more when life is working out the way I think it should be working out. It happens more when I have become accustomed to having “it” happen more often. When the outside world seems to shake me it takes a little effort, sometimes a lot of effort to regain my serenity. It is a conscious effort. That OK feeling for me has to be somewhat independent of the outside circumstances or I become an effect of my circumstances and very vulnerable to outside stimuli.
If someone or something outside of yourself has the power to piss you off then it will. If my happiness is dependent of what other people think of me than I am very vulnerable because what other people do and say is more often connected to their stuff than to my stuff and if I need anyone else’s permission to be at peace than I am again making myself very vulnerable. I need to connect to my source of strength and feel confident in myself and my connection so that I can proceed into the world independent of the circumstances of my life. Life is like a roller coaster and if I can only be happy when the coaster is on the part of the tracks that I prefer than I will be spending a lot of time trying to fix the coaster in my mind. If I can accept that life has it’s ups and downs than I can expect the ride and be grateful for the ride and not be weakened when I think that life is doing me wrong and strengthened and happy only when it is turning out the way I think it should. My life is turning out exactly the way it should be turning out. I can’t change the world outside. I can only change myself when I decide to take responsibility for my emotional condition no matter what is happening outside of me than I can change my world. I can make choices and be effective. I can be at cause and not always at effect.
I also need to realize that everything is temporary in life. The only thing that is constant is change. If I let change rock my world than I am going to be rocked a lot. Also when things aren’t going the way that I think they should I need to also remember that anything that goes up, goes down again and everything that is down goes up again. Sometimes I get real stuck in the downs because I continue focusing on the downs and don’t move forward because I am no longer the same person because I lost my inner peace.
That is when I’ve really lost because if I am not the same person than I change the ride and I get in the way of the coaster coming back up. That is when I again need to reconnect to my God and have some quiet so that I am whole again and can proceed with my journey. That is the miracle of perception. That is what the “winners” do, they accept when life didn’t work out the way that they think it should of and they get up anyway, brush themselves off, and move on. After a while it gets easier and you actually become less frightened of life because you start to see the power of the “do over.” Then you can start living a bolder, less fearful life. You always have the decision to reconnect (however that looks for you) and move on.
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Dr. Sharon Gorman is a graduate of Life Chiropractic College. Upon graduation, she associated with her mentor Dr. James Sigafoose. She opened her own practice in June of 1985 and in 3 months was seeing over 100 patients a day. Within 4 years, she had established four chiropractic practices seeing combined over 5000 patients a month. Now, married with 4 children, she still practices part time and manages 3 successful practices. She is a speaker at Dynamic Essentials, New Beginnings, Parker Seminars and is the founder and hostess of the Focus Philosophy Weekends. Visit her website at: www.focuschiropractic.com
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