By Sharon Gorman, D.C.
Do you know what you like or are you totally lost in service all of the time. I can get real lost. I have a tendency to want to put chiropractic before everything else. It feels good. Success is more predictable. When I contribute through my work I know that I am making a difference in people’s lives. I know how to share chiropractic and chiropractic is truth. Sharing the truth is very predictable. I put energy out and it comes back.
For me life is a little more tricky. It’s real comfortable to hang out in my work. It seems as long as I can remember just about everything I think about or do is run through a filter called what will be good for the practices, what will be good for chiropractic. That is what I talk about all the time when I talk about Focus. I eat, drink and sleep chiropractic and so does my family and so do my friends. What else is there? Life. I need to be accomplished at my career so that I can be fulfilled professionally and financially. But there is more to life than that. If I don’t put energy in other areas of my life than that is exactly what I will get back.
This principle can be masked by not being successful enough too. Many of us are driven because we feel it is justified because we are not successful enough. The financial lack motivates us to keep trying harder and this takes us away from our life too. We feel justified because we “have to do what we have to do” in order to get our financial footing back. Some of us don’t even realize that we create this situation so that we can be distracted and not pay attention to the rest of our lives happening around us. If you are a student you might be creating a lot of struggle pertaining to passing your classes. In either respect you are distracted and not paying attention to something else.
There has to be some payoff or you wouldn’t be doing it. Maybe you don’t have to deal with “problems” with your marriage, kids, parents, friends etc. If there wasn’t a payoff you wouldn’t choose to disappear into your work. I know I might not be talking to all of you today yet I still feel it is worth mentioning because it is a common trap. It is another addiction. Another way to get numb. I know you are thinking maybe you just like work.
Well sometimes it is appropriate to put every ounce of energy you have into work. Sometimes it is not. Remember there is only one you. You might be very fulfilled in your achievements but if you are balanced and fulfilled in other areas than you won’t be able to keep going. If you are in “it” for the long run like I am than you have to make sure you are taking good care of yourself. When I feel that I am depriving myself in some area in my life I usually end up punishing myself or creating a crisis so that I have to re-evaluate my life and look at what is important and how important it really is to me. I need to stop occasionally and take a look if my actions are creating the results that I intend them to create. Am I lost in service?
It’s OK to be lost in service when it is time to be of service yet that is not all the time. If I give all I got all of the time than eventually (days, weeks, months or years later) there won’t be nothing left for me to give. So I got a few questions for you to think about. For those of you are married and have children. Is your marriage the kind of marriage you want your child to have when they grow up? Are you putting the energy into your relationships that is necessary in order to maintain an intimate relationship? Do you put your work before your family? Do you take enough vacations? Do you take time for yourself? Do you have time to do the things you want to do or do you always use your work as a good excuse? Do you also use work as an excuse to not do the things that would be good for you like praying, meditating or exercising? Do you feel the relationships in your life nurture you? Do you allow yourself to receive love from other people, or do you always have to be the giver? Do you laugh enough? Do you have people in your life who you can feel like you can be yourself around or are you always putting on a show? Do you have to have a drink or take something in order to relax? Do you always feel like you are wound a little too tight? Do you feel like you are not doing enough? Work enough? Play enough? Spend enough time with your significant other? Spend enough time with your kids? Spend enough time organizing your “stuff” and your schedule? HOW MUCH IS ENOUGH? If this article just irritated you chances are it applies. Hope I got you thinking.
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