Replace Old Thought Patterns With New Thought Patterns

By Sharon Gorman, D.C.

Monday Morning Message for 5/14/07

Who is driving the car? When something doesn’t go the way that you hoped it would in your life, is it always someone else’s fault. Until we acknowledge that we have free choice in life we will never be able to reach our full potential.

As children our parents and society made most of the decisions that governed our lives. Now we are adults and although we can not control the whole world we can make our own decisions. It is easy to get stuck in that pattern and also easy to go back to those comfortable thought patterns. Do we blame our spouse for things that don’t go well in our life? Our parents or our children? Our patients? The insurance companies? etc.etc.etc? Sometimes it is easier to blame others than to take responsibility and look at our choices and the consequences of those choices. It might be hard but if we don’t take a look then we are destined to make the same mistakes over and over again.

When we decide to depend on other people to make our choices then we in essence give them all our power. I definitely believe in seeking counsel with anyone who can help make a decision but ultimately I know the decision is mine. If the world around me is dictating my life then I am at it’s mercy. If I am only going to be happy if the weather is great then I am limiting myself. If I am only going to be happy if there are a lot of checks in my mailbox today then I am limiting myself. If I am only going to be happy if the people around me are in a good mood today then I am limiting myself.

Sometimes our minds want to go back to old patterns and where we get to choose is whether we are going to let those old pattterns run or life or if we are going to stop the old tapes and look at our life and our decisions and evaluate where we want to go and what we want to learn. We can choose to replace old thought patterns with new thought patterns. Sometimes I actually I have to write it out on paper and look at the situation as if I am an outsider so that I can take responsibility for what I did in the situation that made it turn out the way it turned out. Sometimes I can talk it out with a friend. I need to choose a friend who is going to help me grow and not just tell me what I want to hear.

I need to see how much better my life actually works out when I see how my choices can create for me a life that I love. My choices – good and bad – are my choices.

I know that I cover this subject a lot in my messages but in my conversation with other people especially people who are “stuck” this subject comes up time and again. If you do what you have always done then you will get what you have always gotten.

Sharon

Focus Philosophy Night – Saturday, June16 – 2007
Andy Forelli – Sandy Levenson
Join Us For Dinner Before At The Restaurant At The Hotel At 6:00 Pm – Meeting Begins At 7

Howard Johnson Hotel
Route 611 Bartonsville, PA (exit 302 off I-80)
(570) 424-6100 for Reservations (ask for Focus Rate)
Contact Sharon Gorman at (570) 350-4091 for more info.

Future 2006 Dates:
JULY 28 – Armand Rossi
AUGUST 18-TBA